As a Submissive, this was very difficult for me. I am shyer-than-shit when it even comes to initiating sex. I love being told what to do, how, and when to do it. NEVER did I imagine; taking the most dominant position.
Let’s start with the *talk*. I wanted to test a strap on without even knowing what my husband would think of it. I found one at an online sex shop that I wanted and I trotted out to him in the living room. “Would you ever be interested in pegging?” To this, he was confused; he didn’t know what the term meant. So I explained it to him that it was when a woman penetrates a man via strap-on, he’d said that he’s never done it before but he would be open to it. He also elaborated on the fact that it would be unfair for him to receive anal from me, but to deny it if I were to ask for it. I liked that. I didn’t need to press the debate because he already knew what I was going to say. =OÞ lol. I knew beforehand that he liked his prostate stimulated, as most sexual men do, so I wasn’t too scared to ask him.
My cutely adorable strap-on arrived from The Adult Toy Shoppe and I was very excited to try it on! It fit very well and had lots of straps to work with. Unlike most strap-on harnesses, this set comes with the dildo, as well as the rings to change the size/diameter allowance and it’s very adjustable. This harness goes up to 60” which, my guess would be around a 26 or 28 in women’s pant size. If you just love the heart-shaped landing pad for the dildo, fear not! I am sure that you could just cut the straps shorter, to your preferred length and just hold a lighter to melt the edge so it won’t fray! This is, indeed, fully adjustable. Now, this is a low-riding harness that rests right where it needs to. I was shocked at the accuracy because it’s hard to visualize when you’re just looking at a pile of straps and a dildo-pad. Once you slip this baby on, it all falls into place.
The experience...I was SO freaked out. I had him lay down on the bed, on his back, I performed some anallingus, and when I was ready...I got comfortable on my knees, pulled out the lube and started to work it. I had my faux cock all lubed up and it was *slick*. It felt so strange to stroke a physical object, attached at my groin, with lube, ready to insert into a private hole. The husband admitted to me that he was terrified at the same time he was excited or curious.
He thought that I was going to ram it in, causing lots of pain. Hello!? I would hate that! THE GOLDEN RULE: Do Unto Anus as You Would Have Done Unto Yours.
Of course, I was a tender, loving wife and woman about it; I asked him every step of the way if he was okay. It turned out that I was doing a FINE job of pegging. He began to masturbate, watch me and feel the sensations of my thrusts. With his strokes and my strokes combined, it was dual action for him and I was taking great mental pleasure in the act. Something awesome began to happen; I started to feel the sensations of a mental orgasm. This has only happened once before, in my life, and it was also with him. (I gave him head one day and he was enjoying it so much that I was fully, mentally, turned on. I had an orgasm in my mind without external stimulation. Mental orgasms are very light, yet powerful. I guess that’s another blog post, though. *wink*) Anyways, I began to get those familiar mental sensations and I thought “oh my god, I am really going to enjoy this more than I thought I would have”...But, as you would know it, he came before I had my mental orgasm. Damn him for not waiting for me! :oÞ Really, though, I had no idea that he was enjoying it as much as I was. It didn’t take long for him to reach climax at all, and I must say, pegging is in our future as well.
